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And let the sharks take care of the leftovers.

I know I don’t necessarily have traditional views on death. I also know the only reason I’m even thinking about it is that I have a visitation to go to this afternoon and of course, it dredges up all sorts of mental nonsense.

When I go - no funeral, no services, no visitations or viewings. In my mind, every one of these “events” just delays the healing process. Go get on with your life and do something that would make me smile. If someone out there feels some overwhelming need to have a wake or something - don’t expect anyone in my family to host it in any way, shape or form. When my Mom passed away, I had a house overflowing with people - and I knew maybe 20% of them - it was nice to know my Mom had so many friends, but I can’t go so far as to say it was helpful for me.

I know lots of people out there take a lot of comfort in these rituals, but I can’t wrap my head around why, and I probably never will. I’m glad that they do something for folks - I just hate the idea of instructing my family to go through rituals that will do them no good and cause them stress. If they want to do something, fine - but only because they want to, not because they feel like they have to - either for me or anyone else out there.